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Hope aditya is safe somewhere and he will reunite with his family very soon. A little background check prior to marriage could have saved you all these heart burns. But again, you are not the first one to fall for her dubious and decieving personality. Viji is gifted with a lot of abilities. At the same time cursed with psychological problems that overpowers her judgement and abilities. I dont think even god can convince her that there is normal parental relationship between father and son. And as long as she thinks she is right in keeping the son away from the father, her single aim in her life will be to keep him away from the father. Hope to see some good news on this webpage soon.
You seem to know much about Viji. How come?
do you have a personal email id?
are you also advertizing in TV? I dont think internet reaches every corner in india.
There were numerous response to the advt that ran on June 1, 2008. Some examples are shown below. Phone numbers are e-mail addresses are redacted to protect privacy of the individuals.
1. name = Deepika ****
email = kam*******ika@yahoo.com
phone = 91984102****
comments = We will also pray for you and your child.
Thanks & Regards
K Deepika
2. name = Nag Ravi
email = na******avi@gmail.com
phone = 91984067****
comments = We pray the god to get your child back in your custody and pls send a html maile to me in order to circulate through my/our database. Thanks & Regards N**** Ravi
3. i am pleased u replied…i am also telugu and i am pune as already told…please call..i would like to talk and share…i do understand the kind of truama u might b going through
best regards
******rao
0927097****
4. Dear Doctor
I do understand the situation….i dont care about the family feuds or fights..its a child suffering out there…kindly u too understand…kindly call me so that may be..just may be….v can work it out for the best of the lovely child..u know…children are gods gift…call me iam waiting
shiv** *****
5. Dear sir,
the whole episode moved my heart…i am a law abiding defene accounts officer with government of india, ministry of defence….i will stand by u…thank u for ur mail it did boost my moral..i hope i can b of some use to u…please feel free to write..or call…927097****….
i respect human values and the kid needs respite..i cant put it out of my mind
best regards
Name Withheld pune, india
u can contact me and call me 24×7
6. name = vee** ***
email = ****ny@gmail.com
comments = I wish to know why aditya has been detained by his mother .
7. name = m****ao
email = s******one@yahoo.co.in
phone = ****270978****
comments = i work as a ********* officer..and i strongly feel that such act need to be watched and culprits to law
8. name = shantha *****
email = sha*****@hotmail.com
phone = 0444155****
comments = Iam glad I cane across the web-site Rescue Aditya iam not certain whether i should have a member login.I will ask my daughter,and if necessaryi will become a member login.
Hi,
I have a suggestion..i don’t how effective its gonna be…since she is keep on travelling, i think she is getting financial support from her family, also if she is mentally ill, i am sure she cannot plan all these with such a kind of shrewd mindset…
eventhough her parents say that they are not aware of her wheraabouts, i am sure , some one from her family must be giving her some support (afterall, she is their daughter)..so may be if people can track the communication of her parents or their transactions, it might help a bit
i pray to god, everything should be good for this cute kid’s future
Hi Vinovash:
I think you have a great suggestion. Thank you for providing your support to rescue Aditya.
I received the following comment from one reader. My responses are as
follows:
…”1. it is highly pathetic to note that this sort of incidence is
happening….”
Yes I agree with you, it is highly pathetic that a country like India
will allow criminals to run with impunity with no consequence for their
actions. It is pathetic that a little boy’s life and welfare is not the
priority of authorities or the law enforcement.
….”2. I think as a mother she also has an equal right over her child
and infact she is the one who should have had the legal custody of the
child….”
Yes I agree that as a mother she should have equal right. Also you are
saying that father should also have equal rights. Now you should figure
out why the US court has given sole legal and physical custody of the
child to father, and issued an arrest warrant for the mother. New York
court officers are not fools to make such ruling. In fact, like India,
most western nations, especially USA is generally anti-father and
pro-mother when it comes to custody issues. Please check with any attorney
anywhere in India or USA. They will vouch for the fact that getting
custody for father is almost impossible. Under these circumstances did you
think why New York court gave custody to father? ON top of this, the
the Madras High Court had dismissed her custody petition. The facts are
clear, as two court is two different jurisdiction which don;t want to
look anti-mother or anti-woman still dismissed her petition and gave the
custody to the father. Please think about this situation.
Being a parent is a previlage. It is not an automatic right. You need
to earn the right to be a parent when custody issues are at the
forefront of the child’s future. Courts gave the right to the parent who can
best nurture and raise the kid, while the mother is declared to be
mentally ill.
….3. Is it possible for the father to take care of the child…..”
Agreed. As a father, I took very good care of Aditya. The courts saw
this and had full knowledge of my commitment to Aditya. Hence in the best
welfare of the child the courts gave me the custody.
—–4. I dont know how it is publshed in the paper as International
Child Kidnapping…..
When the father or mother does not have any custody rights as declared
by the courts, father or mother becomes a third party. This is the law
in any country including India. When the guardianship is canceled, the
mother or father, whoever it may be, their rights towards the child are
terminated. As a third party if they abscond with the child, they
become kidnapper. Since the non-custodial parent kidnapped the child from
one country to another, she or he now becomes international child
kidnapper. You need to think about why the custody was terminated in the
first place for the mother.
…..6. What are the medical records by which the said mother was
proved as mentally instable…..
You need to look at the psychologist report available at the website.
You will also note that the mother paid for this report, which was court
ordered.
….”7. I dont think that if the case is again reopened the same will
be totally lost…..
Yes I agree, the same situation will not arise, especially if India
becomes signatory to the Hague Commission on International parental
Kidnapping. If such a treaty is promulgated by the Indian parliament, the
mentally ill mother will be in Jail, and father will be able to rescue the
child and take him back to USA.
Author : balajibabl (IP: 59.92.84.254 , 59.92.84.254)
E-mail : balajibabl@rediffmail.com
URL : http://
Whois : http://ws.arin.net/cgi-bin/whois.pl?queryinput=59.92.84.254
Comment:
1. it is highly pathetic to note that this sort of incidence is
happening.
2. I think as a mother she also has an equal right over her child and
infact she is the one who should have had the legal custody of the
child.
3. Is it possible for the father to take care of the child.
4. I dont know how it is publshed in the paper as International Child
Kidnapping.
5. Do you think that the child has been kidnapped by a criminal.
6. What are the medical records by which the said mother was proved as
mentally instable.
7. I dont think that if the case is again reopened the same will be
totally lost.
There were numerous letters of support and sympathy for Aditya’s plight. Here are some examples. Personal information is redacted to protect the privacy of individuals.
1.
name = Praveen
email = *ra**n_******@hotmail.com
comments = I want to help in anyway possible
REMOTE_HOST: 68.199.161.223
2.
name = XXXXXnXXX
email = mmke*******X**d@gmail.com
comments = Sir.
I empathize with what you’re going through right now. i was in Aditya’s place when i was growing up- unhappy marriage and mentally ill mom…
please look for places like ******** or ******** (********) where it isnt unusual for a mother and child to be seen alone.
when my mom disappeared with my brother and me, she went straight to my dad’s native because that was the last place that he’d look. if you havent searched there, do look near your places because i dont know if her parents would be ready to support their daughter with such a huge liability and your hometown is probably the only other place that she would be familiar with.
I’d appreciate if you revert to me with an email ID of yours. am not comfortable writing in forums like these.
REMOTE_HOST: XXX.164.132.XXX
I received the following mail. I need to respond to this, as this person is heaping allegations against me, similar to what Vijayasree Voora did. I encourage honest opinions and debate, but not frivolous allegations with no basis or support.
First of all, let me give my personal e-mail ID, since I am not afraid or hiding behind any internet firewall. vrchandran@yahoo.com.
1. “……..Greetings!!! I am back. As suspected my writeup is not on the blog for others to see it……….”
Your comments are not on the blog, as you are writing vile comments without any basis, no knowledge of any information about anything, other than your personal biased opinions. These type of comments will not be in the best interest of rescuing Aditya from mentally ill mother.
2. “……Now I find that all the court documents, psychologist report is all password protected, Luckily I have downloaded it…..”
Every Sunday all password protected files are unprotected for public to download them. Check back next Sunday. Only last Sunday you would have been able to download those files.
3. “……… I will contact the psychologist…..”
You are very welcome to contact the psychologist. Dr. Elizabeth Schockmel. You can easily find any information about the psychologist in Internet, or in Albany NY area. Do not forget to ask Dr. Schockmel the reason behind Vijayasree Voora offering to voluntarily pay for the psychologist report, while the court ordered me to pay for the same.
4. “…..the report says that your wife attended the evaluation which is a four hour sitting, do you know what it means? 4 hour sitting– this one thing will send the report flying…….”
There were several 4 hour sessions. She was interviewed 3 times. And by the way for a good psychologist it does not take hours, just in the first 10 min they can figure out the mental status of a crazy person. Please get an appointment with Dr. Schockmel and perhaps you can clear this issue.
5. “……….I will be in New York on 13th of this month and during my free time let me do some work on rescue Aditya……”
I think you should exhaust your research by spending time with all the people she had been known to. Please visit
Albany Hindu Temple,
Albany Shaker Road
Near Albany International Aiport
Albany, NY
Please visit Susan Taylor School in Troy, where Aditya attended classes.
Susan Odell Taylor School
113 Pine Street
Troy, NY 12180
Please contact all six attorneys Vijayasree Voora employed.
1. Trinidad M. Martin
Martin and Martin
511 Glen Street
Glens Falls, NY
2. Michael Assaf Esq
O’Connell and Aronowicz
54 State Street
Albany, NY 12207
3. Jennifer Rutkey Esq
Gordon Tepper and DeCoursey LLP
Socha Plaza South
113 Saratoga Road
Glenville, NY 12302
4. Elizabeth Donoghue
Attorney, Albany, NY
5. Michael P. Friedman
2 Normanskill Blvd, #201, Delmar, NY 12054
6. Diana Bankert Drowns
600 Broadway, #2, Albany, NY
In addition to these attorneys, she also employed two other accountants, Mr. Bob Jones and Mr. Anthony Mastrachio. To none of them she paid any monies, as she stiffed all of them, in true Indian spirit.
Since I was paying for her attorneys she was changing them like shirts every other month. When she had to pay, she stiffed all of them.
They will also vouch for her behavior with them. These are the attorneys she chose as part of her defense. Don’t forget to check with all of her attorneys. You must contact them and provide your report for the sake of completeness of your discovery.
You also need to know few other facts about New York court system. They are the most liberal, and generally pro-mothers and totally anti-fathers and anti-men. You need to think while she had all the advantages of being a woman, and mother, she still lost out her custody rights, while I paid for all her attorneys. If I had even committed 10% of the crimes she had committed, I would be in Jail in New York, as a man and a father. This is a fact. While you are in New York, please check around and enquire about the mood and disposition of extremely liberal New York family court system towards men and in general about fathers in custody cases. You would realize it is almost impossible for a father to get any type of custody rights over mother in any court across USA.
Now therefore, you need to think why as a mother she lost all her custody rights, and the New York went to the extend of issuing a non bail-able arrest warrant for her.
Finally it is very important that you should contact court appointed attorney and law guardian for Aditya Chandran. She will also provide you valuable information about Vijayasree Voora.
Pam Joern, Esq.
Law Guardian
Albany County Family Court
Albany, NY
Note that I am not asking you to contact any of my attorneys or contacts as you may perceive them to be biased.
Hopefully you will not subscribe to the great conspiracy theory against Vijayasree Voora in the entire world.
6. “……You are hiding behind a internet wall without any mail ID but you can access mine, my IP address, my remote host, my location…..”
I live in 35 Woodland Ridge, Bolton Landing, NY 12814. My e-mail address is vrchandran@yahoo.com. I would like to invite you to visit my house while you are in Albany, NY. This would help you to understand the location where Aditya used to live. Please e-mail me with our visit details, I will arrange for your transport from Albany Airport to my dwelling.
8. “…….This all shows that you are not clean hearted. I think you have
lived in USA for quite sometime and have become Americanized,…….”
Well, I cleared up your questions regarding my identity and integrity. I agree with your accusation, that I may be Americanized.
Also, in any conflict, one party is not always 100% correct. I agree with you that I am not a perfect man, and far from any perfection. However, I love my child, and my differences with Vijayasree Voora should not prevent me fathering my child.
9. “……like they always say “GOD BLESS AMERICA” but not something like “GOD BLESS THE WORLD”…….”
Well at this stage I am not worried about God Bless America or the World. I am hoping that “God Bless Aditya” in time of his great needs and rescue him from mentally ill mother.
10. In your earlier deleted posting, you had items that are based upon your personal perception without facts. I also noted that in India there is no self regulation, and total lawlessness. I want to quote you from one true Indian patriot, Mr. V. Ranganathan, (educator at IIM, Ahmedabad, recently senior management in Ing Vysya, and GMR group) in his book “Games Indians Play” with the subtitle Why we are the way we are”, page 98…
“……. I said earlier that our intelligence level is perhaps second to none in the world. Why then do we seem to lack self regulation more than most other people of the world? Why we are reluctant to punish the unfair? What prevents us from seeing that, even if we are supremely selfish, it is in our best interest to cooperate? Let me hypothesize a couple of answers to these questions…..
Mr. V. Ranganathan goes on to say..”……Firstly we ourselves are unfair to varying degrees it does not shock us when we encounter unfairness in others…….In other words most Indian are somewhat of crooks themselves….(italics mine).
Furthermore, Mr. V. Ranganathan says….”….But our intelligence seems to be in the nature of rapid-fire intelligence, like that required in a rapid-chess tournament….. Consequently our dealings are rarely world class and are not half as smart as they look in the short haul…”
The following are my statements:
Vijayasree Voora’s decisions are well grounded on the Indian psyche, which she knows well that in India her actions will not be punished, and she knew it intuitively. She realized she will be subject to a higher standard in USA; hence she quit and came to India to hide. She knew that like her, all other folks, i.e., vast majority of them will sympathize with her, and will consider her crimes as part of life. As you know very well, India is a safe haven for vindictive mothers who want to deprive their children of their father’s love and affection. India is also number one destination for international parental kidnapping.
11. In your earlier posting, you were criticizing the videos of Aditya. These videos were made 1-2 years before Aditya was violently abducted from his home in USA by the mentally ill mother. There is no way I could have foreseen the fact of kidnapping ahead of time, and made these videos with such great foresight. If I had known that Vijayasree will run away with the child, I would not have agreed with the NY courts’ permission to her go to India with Aditya.
What is more consistent with your view of these videos is again well explained by the true Indian patriot, Mr. V. Ranganathan in his book “Games Indians Play” page 100, which I quote…”….
….WE BRAZEN IT OUT
There is another related tendency of ours as Indians that has indirect parallel with the observations just made. Elsewhere in the world, media reports seem to indicate that when people are presented with incontrovertible evidence of their misdeeds, after putting up with initial fight, they weaken, waver, give in and confess and show a degree of repentance. But closer to home, our sense of shame and dishonour, if any, obtains not so much from the commission of the misdeed but from the exposure of it. You catch me with my hands in the till; I will look up innocently and ask you, ‘What till?’ We put up our best fights when we are up the proverbial creek – paddle or no paddle. If we are rich, powerful and famous, more often than not, we dock home safely. Videotape and cell phone evidence are rubbished with a straight face. BMWs driven by the offspring of the high and mighty that mow down half a dozen innocents simply disappear. A suitcase full of hot cash pulled out from under the bed of a powerful satrap can be allowed to go cold till public memory fades away. A supreme may be all but indicted in the highest court (like Vijayasree Voora with an arrest warrant from New York Supreme Court, Italics mine) and in exemplary punishment asked to ‘introspect’ on her sins. Witnesses may switch testimonials like a toggle switch. VVIPs may be repeatedly ordered by the courts to vacate their illegally occupied bungalows to no effect. All this because, we neither self regulate; we neither penalize wrongdoers ourselves, nor do we expect our judiciary to do so.
The following are my comments:
Therefore, I agree with you, that in India all evidences are considered in-admissible, as they are obtained by bribing someone. I see that you question the videos, even though they present incontrovertible evidence of abuse meted out to Aditya by his mentally ill mother.
Finally I don’t agree with you, and as suggested by one other visitor to the web…”You are a good actor….” While I don’t agree, I thank you for your compliment.
Author : mallige
E-mail : kafemallige@gmail.com
Comment:
Greetings!!! I am back. As suspected my writeup is not on the blog for
others to see it. Now I find that all the court documents, psychologist
report is all password protected, Luckily I have downloaded it. I will
contact the psychologist , the report says that your wife attended the
evaluation which is a four hour sitting, do you know what it means? 4
hour sitting– this one thing will send the report flying. I will be in
New York on 13th of this month and during my free time let me do some
work on rescue Aditya. You are hiding behind a internet wall without
any mail ID but you can access mine, my IP address, my remote host, my
location. This all shows that you are not clean hearted. I think you have
lived in USA for quite sometime and have become americanised, like
they always say “GOD BLESS AMERICA” but not something like “GOD BLESS THE WORLD”.
Mallige’s comments are not only stupid but insensitive also. The agenda here is to rescue a six year old boy who has been forcefully separated from the rest of the civilized world by an insensitive and irresponsible mother. The kid has no freedom, cant go to school, cant see doctor, cant do what a normal 6 year old does as one can imagine the mom is so paranoid about getting caught. The mother herself can’t reach out to anybody including her own family because of all the legal troubles she got herself into. All this because of her baseless conspiracy theories that came out of her sick brains.
There are two things that Mallige is preoccupied with. a) when a family breaks down due to domestic violence or abuse in marriage, it is always guy’s fault. b) a person who is insane can’t be intelligent enough to be a criminal. These myths exist in society because most of our knowledge and exposure comes from zee tv serials.
I am not saying Ms voora is the norm but she is the exception to an average indian women who do so many sacrifices to raise and support the family. Before you jump on me, let me tell you i do know Ms voora from her past life. I dont know Mr Chandran at all other than what i learnt on this webpage. Ms voora came to USA close to 15 years ago. I will be surprized if any of her friends or acquaintances in this period come on this blog and stand for her or at least vouch for her mental health. She needs chemical help. period. If you think the pointers given by Mr Chandran are concocted, you may also find more about Ms Voora from outside “Mr Chandran’s world”. Ms Voora got her education from Purdue University (1995 – 1999) and from University of Hawaii at Manoa (1993 to 1995).
I myself could tell you more about her but again the point here is to spread the word and reach out and rescue the helpless kid.
regards
There were numerous letters of support and concern for Aditya were received. Some examples are shown below:
1. name = syedibrahim
email = *****syed@gmail.com
phone = 98******81
comments = the case seems to be very sympethetic praying for safe rescue of aditya
REMOTE_HOST: 117.199.129.120
2. Thanks
we are all with you
You have done an excellent job.
I am suresh from chennai and i am the convenor of Chennai chapter of saveindia family
for more resources please visit 498a.org
saveindianfamily.org
3. name = raychu
email = rachel******@gmail.com
phone = 0988*****28
comments = i m a mom of 4 year-old-kid n i do understand the pain u go through when u r far from ur kid so i m very much want to know everything thats happening with aditya. I hope and pray that u get ur son back very soon by God’s Grace
REMOTE_HOST: 122.167.177.90
4. name = ****** rathore
email = *******@gmail.com
phone = +91-**-98205*****
comments = i read in times of india , it made feel very concerned for aditya, even my elder sons name is aditya, i need the user id for watching the video
REMOTE_HOST: 210.211.129.131
Dear Rathore: All files are available every Sunday without the use of any username or passwords.
Kafemallige Comments:
I received two comments from above author, and I deleted both of them, as they were vile , pornographic and not in the best interest of finding Aditya.
Mr. Kafemallige can not write nonsense in this blog and jeopardize the chance of safely finding Aditya and reunite his extended family with him. This website and this blog requires prudent measures so that nasty and vile comments with adult and pornographic comments made by Mr. Kafemallige are not allowed and not in the best interest of rescuing Aditya.
Any further such nasty pornographic comments from Kafemallige will result in deletion of his privilege to visit this blog.
I do have the authority to exercise my right to keep this blog free of such nonsense. However, I will post my response at appropriate time to some of the comments made by Kafemallige.
Dr. V. Ravi Chandran
Kafemallige, my personal id is samiam2008@live.com. You may write directly to me if you want further personal details of viji voora. I feel i can answer your concerns because I too was on viji’s side for a while until i figured out how sick she is. Actually calling her sick is most generous description because if i have to pick words, it will not suite this blog. I can understand if you can’t figure out who is the victim here and put blame (at least partially) on Mr. Chandran. You should be glad that person like this is not part of your life. And i will not wish such a thing for you. you should also find some leads and means to look into her past yourself. Why believe somebody else? i will look forward to your email. thanks.
i am sorry for your plight.i too have a son aditya of the same age.i also strongly suspect that vijayashree is the same person who went with me to college in chennai.her photo tells me it’s the same person.i am really shocked that educated people like her dont understand when they are sick and need help.though i knew her only for a year we were quite friendly and none would have guessed she would be like this.wish you all the best in getting back to your kid.
Education has nothing to do with the situation Vijayashree is in. She is emotionally weak. She can be cured if given Psychiatric help. But Psychiatric help alone will not help. It should be coupled with love. Lack of love leads to such situations. The best person to love her is her husband. But, we do not know what went on between them, so we cannot comment. If she refuses to take treatment, then it is a different situation. I went through a similar situation, but in the reverse case. I was asked to leave my family and leave the US to take medical treatment. I was pained at being cut off from my family. She divorced me and married again. I was still pained but expected her to come back. As my violent outbursts began to increase in the office, under the advice of my doctor I decided to get married. And my wife took me to a doctor and now I am taking medicines and perfectly normal and happy. But still I miss my kids – but no more emotional outbursts, thanks to psychiatric help and my loving wife.
With every passing day I feel more anxious for the child. I just cann’t claim to understand what the father must be going through. My heart goes out to this poor child. How I wish I could offer a solution or find the child. I sincerely pray that Aditya is safe and healthy.
After reading the post while I do sympathize with the father, I would advocate the everybody exercise strong caution in judging the case just based on one sided version. Also just having court orders in someones favor doesn’t prove anything. Lot of you have said how court cases can be manipulated. First how did the 38 year old lady turn mentally deranged and did she turn mentally deranged after birth of the child. If she did turn deranged did the husband do anything to cause her this illness. If not what was the husband doing all this while without providing proper treatment not until Also did the husband physically or mentally torture her in any way. As far the court cases are concerned, if one person is smart and the other person is dumb, then the smart person can collect one sided evidence to show that the mother doesn’t treat the kid well. I am not passing any judgement. But based on my personal experience I caution everybody to not pass judgement without proper information and asking questions. Vijaysree didn’t run away to India normally. She ran away during the course of divorce and loosing the custody of the child. Maybe she couldn’t let go of her child and couldn’t withstand manipulative husband in court. Again I say I am speculating. These are all possibilities.
Dear Dr. Chandaran,
I agree with comments of Sudhir, my sympathy as a Father of child.
But as a Husband did you thought of your wife. As an Indian husband if you had got married in traditional way you must took oath that until death I will take care of you. Are you really following that… Your son is six years old and did you mentioned anywhere here he wants to live only with dad. I doubt whatever a mother does children like them only… That tooo sons are always moms pet…. Bringing up Child together as husband & wife is the Indian way and Hope you are grown up like as well your wife tooo. But in your case you want to bring up your son yourself and never thinking of your wife….. Every where you are mentioning that she is mentally ill. As doctor did you ever thought treating her from her illness and as a husband did you thought of her support her during her illness and Finally as father who loves his son very much… did you thought he also need his mom to be himself happy…
Anyhow, Wishing you to see with your son . To see a Happy Son with mom & dad.
This is my (Aditya’s father) response to Mr. Saidass above:
Dear Mr. Saidass:
Thank you for your interest in this case. All your questions are valid.
I would like to answer those questions as below:
1. “But as a Husband did you thought of your wife.”
Of course I thought of Vijayasree and Aditya.
I fully agree that Aditya must be able to see and spend time with his mother, and I fully support the same. I have published compromise letter in the website. There is no response from her.
2. ” As an Indian husband if you had got married in traditional way you must took oath that until death I will take care of you. Are you really following that…”
Of course I tried to follow this. It is Vijayasree who didn’t follow the traditional Indian marriage vows. She filed for divorce. She didn’t care about any traditional vows. The divorce was granted in USA in 2005.
3. “.. Your son is six years old and did you mentioned anywhere here he wants to live only with dad. I doubt whatever a mother does children like them only… That tooo sons are always moms pet….”
I thinks children are not pets. Anyway, you need to ask Aditya who he wants to live with. But one can not make the mistake of asking this now after he is brainwashed. He should spend few months with both father and mother and then you can ask Aditya this question. Do you agree with the logic?
4. “.. Bringing up Child together as husband & wife is the Indian way and Hope you are grown up like as well your wife tooo. But in your case you want to bring up your son yourself and never thinking of your wife…..”
I agree. It is how the children should be raised, with both parents. How come Vijayasree didn’t think about this, and hiding the child for the past 2 years from father? You should be asking her this question, that is if you can find her!
5. “.. Every where you are mentioning that she is mentally ill. As doctor did you ever thought treating her from her illness and as a husband did you thought of her support her during her illness..”
Of course I am very sympathetic to her cause. I will be the first one to help her get whatever treatment she needs for the sake of Aditya. But why is she hiding?
6. “.. Finally as father who loves his son very much… did you thought he also need his mom to be himself happy…”
As I mentioned numerous times, Aditya needs both his father and mother.
Again Thank you for your interest in reuniting Aditya with both his parents.
Hi doc,PAST IS PAST WHATS IN STORE FOR THE FUTURE.I see all the messages sent in to you as giving GYAN,and making you remember of the past which is not necessary at this moment of time.We can only sympathize for the situation of the past and present,and the mental stress you are facing since 2 frickin years.Hope you have checked the whole of America and cities in India,did you check the neighboring villages near Chirala,from where your wife hails(VetaPalem,Stuartpuram Epurupalem etc… As said that your ex wife is ailing,With the help of any local cop,did you find out with any hospital out there in Chirala or in any other neighboring towns if she has visited.According to ur knowledge pls give me some places in AP where she oftenly visits or used to visit.Let me do my part in saving this handsome and cute kid of urs.Sirish
Sirish: Thank you for your comments above. I agree with your point of view. However, is it true that Vijayasree is ailing? That is terrible. If she is admitted to a hospital, who is taking care of Aditya?
You seem to know more about Aditya, Vijayasree and her family. Perhaps you could share more information to help us track Aditya and Vijayasree.
I have not checked out the Chirala and the surrounding areas lately.
If I do have some strong clue I would appreciate that. Please contact me throught the contact part of the website. I thank you for your interest in rescuing Aditya.
Hi Chandran:appreciate your quick response.The above message which you have drafted says that you are a paranoid or might be a paranoid.This shows that u don’t believe people but take suggestion’s.Pls take concern i dont know who this lady is,but after reading all the message’s above i came to a conclusion that she might be a psychic before.Pls dont wait for any clues but take a step forward immediately in tracing out the boy.Remember A FIRST STEP U TAKE CAN LEAD U TO THOUSANDS OF MILES.Take an initiative immediately and start searching in the surrounding areas as i have mentioned earlier.Trust this clarifies
Hello Mr. Chandran,
As a father to two small children, I can understand the turmoil you are going through right now and everyday since the “abduction”.
However, I think you need to be more aggressive than this. Incidentally, are you following up on Aditya’s whereabouts from the US or are you in India?
Trust me, if I were in your shoes, I’d come down to India and co-ordinate with police, family, friends and acquaintances, launch a manhunt, put up posters all over, in fact do whatever it takes to make life miserable for the tormentor and drive her to crawl out of her hole for the final crush!
I happen to notice the article on Facebook and out of curiosity as I dug further one look at Adi’s innocent features and the captivating smile moved me and as I write to you I have an inevitable lump in the throat.
I am praying for Adi’s quick return to his rightful home where he would be engulfed in the love and affection he has missed all these years.
With your permission, I would like to share the website address with all my acquaintances, and popularize it more on Facebook.
Awaiting your consent.
Hi
I happened to watch your situation explained in Neeya Naana. I would like to look it up from the child’s perspective, The kid had already lost 2 years of healthy and happy childhood with confusions and stories around him.
I would not accept his mother has mental illness, since she could elope with the kid intelligently alone that too from state to state in India where the society does not accept a single female parent with kid well. She is smart in her moves but for some strong reasons she had taken a decision against you.
I saw the letters you had appealed to your Vijayashree that you would take away all the legal charges if she could come back to you with the kid safely.
I would definitely request Vijayashree to come back or reach your number somehow for the betterment of everyone around.
My prayers are there for the earlier reunion of your family, yourself, the kid Adithya along with his mother Vijayashree.
Dear sir..
Happened to know abt aditya thru vijay tv.. from tat moment i started my prayers for aditya to safely return to u. Any vital information which i get abt ADITYA, sure will get back to you..
My doubt is, how Vijayshree gets money for her expense.. Definitely someone is helping her.. how she wil be able to open up a bank a/c or do money transfer without giving her residential details..
I think positively CBI will be able to find her where abouts..
Your son will be safe sir, your true love for him is a protective shield to him sir.. Waiting for the happy day along with you.. til then i have my prayers for aditya..
I am from Trivandrum, Kerala. Today there was an article in the weekend magazine of one of the leading dailies in Malayalam, about your efforts to rescue your son.
Listen friend, I have a suggestion, if you think your ex wife and son is in India, why don’t you entrust the job to find your son to one of the private detective agencies in India? I understand that there are many such agencies in India now.
Hope you find your son soon.. wishing you success in your efforts.. best reagards, Rajan
Mr Ravi. I Hope and Pray GOD that Aditya is rescues. My take:
1. Both of you are at fault here, you seem to be blaming your wife alone. Both of you are equally responsible for Aditya’s plight.
2. I myself being an outsider, could not see the boy crying in the videos, so as a father yourself..I cannot imagine how you were able to videotape him crying. These videos show that you were trying to prove something, so I doubt it when you say these were taken well before the boy was taken away and little had you known that this was going to happen. These videotapes strongly seem to have been made to make a point.
3. I tried to know if you were worried about your wife a least for a single moment (this will help understand her doings), i do not seem to get that impression. You had questioned…and worried “if it is safe for a 5 yr old boy to be moved around in the dark and shady areas” , have you ever thought leave alone worried for a single minute, if your wife was safe at all? anything could have happened to her.
4. I am not trying to blame you here Mr. Ravi. It was very hard for me to see the boy crying in the videos and my blood boiled seeing you video tape this rather than pacifying the kid and if I were you seriously for the sake of the kid atleast I would have tried to resolve all the issues ( i know you definitely would have tried)
5. Try to find the source of the issue, you are the best judge be honest to your self. Try to find the reasons, why your wife is doing what she is doing now, why your wife has the thought/feeling that she has developed.
6. I sympathize with both of you. I can understand your pain. I sympathize with your wife, for all the distress she is undergoing. Single lady with a kid moving around place to place hiding. I dont have to explicitly bring the fact about the safety of a lady roaming around indian streets in the dark.
7. I came to know that the poor lady was caught (I am happy that Aditya is rescued, but my heart goes out for the lady as to what she would have to face now). I am writing this in the hopes that this kind of problems would not resurface for Aditya. Please dont punish her, try to win her n her confidence back with your love. If I were you at this point, now that I know the boy is safe, I would drop all the legal cases on her and meet her personally talk to her. Give her some shoulder to cry upon all her fears and worries. That way there would not be any reason for Aditya in future to keep shuttling form you to her and vice versa.
8. All these days it was about finding Aditya, and you might think my post would deviate from the main agenda and hence I have not written anything. Now that the boy is safe, please think about the future. Your conscience will never let you be happy, if the poor lady is punished.
Please take this as a positive note. Blame game leaves you/one with nothing and gets u/one no where. My best wishes to you. My best wishes to the lady. My best wishes and love to Aditya.
–Sree.
I think the father should also get independent psycological evaluation along with the mother!! We do not know anything about the mother but from the website and videos of Mr RaviChandran, it is clear to me that he also has some mental problems!! May be a personality disorder such as narcissistic personality disorder..!!
I can probably understand why a woman would run away!!!
i see some point in amenon and sree comment.
as a resource rich person one can even hide his true identity. if he is so concerned he should drop all the charges against the lady who roams around with a kid, he should forgive her outrightly and let his son be in peace(at least from this parent fighting and name calling)
both are ignorant of the negative impact on the kid and trying to WIN over other. man THINK about the kid’s mentality.
i do not think tht woman is mentally ill, she is intelligent enough to save her self from a guy who is well equipped to destroy her character
video shooting, crying in front of camera all nautankis showing dramas to the whole world. a simple matter of trust starts with a simple thing FORGIVING and CHANGING yourself. try to build that with your wife first rather than seeking her. let her live in peace if ur son loves u n needs u then he will RUN to you one day no matter whoever tries to stop him. let him grow, take time n give time to both of them. do not HYPE the matter in the internet, tv, etc etc. what can you do if tht woman commits suicide kills your son out of shame or anger? thank god nothing has happend and i m sure she loves that kid enough not to do such things. stop all these blaming games you are just HURTING each other n harming that kids social atmosphere, mental growth, stability, n more of all HIS TRUST N RESPECT
This is father of Aditya, and i thank Aranjan’s comments above. Unfortunately, there is no need for vijayasree to run like this. She had violated numerous laws, and I don;t want Aditya to grow up as a criminal. He needs to be saved from abuse, lack of education, and lack of socialization. He needs love from his father as well.
Dr V Ravi Chandran
hi
i would like to share one experience with you. you may not like it or appreciate it but i thought i should share. it had happened when i was 13 year old n now i m 28 but it has a scar on me n sorry 2 link this picture in your frame.
once a mother arrived in my town with a son of 9-11 year old,n two days aftr the father. in front of crowds he will hit the kid n mthr to tk bck the kid wid him n mom would say this is nt ur son but i got him from a rape so as to nullify dad’s demand. both will drag the kid many timess it ws there as they stayed in my town for smetime. they had been 2 all d parts of the state chasing/running to/from each other wid tht kid. unfortunately i happend 2 b in tht crowd n i felt bad 4 d kid
because no one is helping him/ them actually, the crowd laughd whn d kid cried n got abuses frm both of them whethr physicalyy verbally or mentally wtver. crowd was takin their entertainment. of course the parents were uneducated…. but yes they were naive n shameless (without thinking of the kid). i m sure tht kid must ve ran away from them n have a fractured mind.
my honest suggestion is STOP CHASING n she will stop hiding/running.
the damage u both ve done 2 d kid is irreparable but if u start with a positive thought it can be minimised. your whole act centred around(majorly) proving her a criminal. u ve tried everything as far as i can guess try this method: unconditionally drop all charges. first go 4 a confidence building. u ve suffered 4 2 years i understand but if u love your son your love will enable u to do this too.
kids not only need father’s love or mother’s love, theyy also need parents love towards each other. not only love but also their RESPECT to each other. u making his mother, YOUR CHILD’S MOTHER A CRIMINAL. when u 2 ppl r blaming with each other i do not know wt d kid is thinking about u. may b now he is small but when he grows up he may not like both of u.
most of all a stable environment is needed which is not possble with his mom running n u chasing. so take time, let tht kid grow up he will change if he has been brainwashed it may take time
aRanjan, do you that Dr.Ravichandran had been offering to drop all criminal charges against her in the US for the past 2 years? You can see the letter of compromise he has offered on this very website. Stop even trying to point a finger at Dr.Ravichandran. He has been going the extra mile to make peace with her for the sake of his son. The woman still keeps running around. If she should not be called a criminal, who else can be?
aMenon, what makes you think the father needs an independent psychological evaluation? If the mother felt he had issues, do you think she would not have raised them by now in the US? Are you even aware of the wild allegations she had made against the father in the US? All her allegations have been found to be baseless and delusional by an independent, court appointed psychologist. It is in fact during this very investigation that the mother’s own psychological shortcomings have been detected by the evaluator.
Both aRanjan and aMenon, I am sure that you would be shouting ‘Hang him’ if it was the father who abducted the child and kept the child away from the mother in violation of court orders of two countries. It is time for people like you to realize that women are as capable of being criminal in their behavior as men.
I would like to thank everyone for their comments. I am pleased to inform everyone that this case now closed. As per SC of India order, Aditya was handed over to me on May 1st, 2010 and I exited India safely with Aditya and reached Dallas, TX USA on the same day. Aditya is now safe from his abusive mother, and her family. I joined him in a very good school, and unlike his previous life, he will go to the same school until he reaches the age of 18. I believe he will have stability in his life, with predictable events, friends, holidays and all other things a child of his age desperately need. I am happy to be reunited with my beloved son. God Bless.
Dr V Ravi Chandran, Father of Aditya.